The Color Issue

Everybody needs to get over their color issues. If you believe that we were all created equal in God's sight and your biology textbooks prove that all humans have the same anatomical structure then why is interracial dating and having friends who vary in skin color an issue? People have been posting videos on youtube, talking in hair salons, arguing in school, and reprimanding friends and family for not falling into the hatred trap. Honestly its time to start getting pass the fear of something different. Why have a master key if all the locks aren't the same? (and all the little biracial babies prove that men clearly have master keys). Teaching your children to hate people because of the color of their skin does not make the world any better it just makes it worse, it perpetuates feelings of inferiority, anger, confusion and war. 


"I can't get a job because the white man is keeping me down" (girl on a bus)
"I can't go in that neighborhood because I'll get shot by gangsters" (girl at school)
"My dad won't allow me to come to your house because he says it's not safe but you can come to mine" (girl at school)
"Black women are only out for your money or your semen, if they can't get your money they'll get pregnant and get welfare" (guy at McDonald's)
Is that (black) girl making you listen to this rap music?(friend's parent in middle school...he didn't say black but he wanted to)
 All comments I've heard in the 2000's in life, as far as television goes there's no end to the racial "humor"
"don't bring home any half breeds"
"Is that your boyfriend or the cab driver?"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=djGLBzR4FDg 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jyald5tqM8E&feature=BF&list=PLFD10FBC6725017C2&index=75
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ypIbTpnuNgg&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvwsw1F3vCY


Did you laugh? Of course you did it's human nature to laugh but after you finish cryin and snottin over what you thought was funny...think about what's actually being said....


I loved cartoons on the weekends as a child and I loved it even more when my parents bought me 100 classic toons on VHS for my 6th birthday...and I'll never forget the images I saw or the messages that they brought along with them... (included are clips that show hate against all people because hate is an equal opportunity destroyer)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gH4ivOyO0PQ
http://www.youtube.com/watch?annotation_id=annotation_893350&v=64AQ3BzhWKI&feature=iv
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OgYOAuO3rRI
http://www.cracked.com/article_15677_9-most-racist-disney-characters.html
Many have started speaking out but is it enough?
http://www.youtube.com/user/NativismWatchTV?feature=pyv&ad=5506706371&kw=anti-latino#p/u/0/XvBwuAtetl4 


I'll end here but really we need to examine ourselves and see what we are doing to others and to ourselves. We need to embrace each other and stop trying to play up the differences when the similarities between us far outweigh them.


ENJOY THE CLIPS AND WATCH YOUR MOUTH :)

Don't talk to my child like that!

I have always been the motherly type for as long as I can remember, many of the people I meet wind up giving me the nickname momma T. I enjoy being the one people can count on for good advice and sound counsel when they need it, but one thing I don't like is feeling compelled to speak to other people's children when out in public. If you have a child you should be mature enough to know when it is acceptable to play games...hide n go seek, tag, and racing games are awesome I used to take part in them as a child and even now that I'm a tad older I still enjoy these games....OUTSIDE. When you are in a public place I feel it is honestly necessary to have a handle on your own children. I have had to tell children: don't play on the escalator you'll get hurt, stop running on the ice you might fall, don't play in the water fountain, stop throwing food etc.... some parents appreciate the reprimands, while others are hostile and lack discipline themselves. I would be ashamed if I had  children throwing food around in a restaurant and I kept saying stop (with no authority and to no avail)  and a stranger walks up says the same thing and they stop. Sure it may be embarrassing but I would be grateful, to get upset at someone for helping you with your unruly children is crazy to me. I have been hit with toys, clothes, food and all kinds of things in stores and restuarants because parents don't know how to say no or stop and actually mean it. I love children and plan on having loads of fun with them but one thing people will never be able to say is that my children have no discipline. If you have a child and you know they are unruly it is YOUR fault. Reprimand them, say no when necessary and stop expecting teachers and day care providers to do what you should be doing at home. I am sick of parents blaming the world for their own stupidity. If your child can curse but can't read, knows all the words to the latest rap songs but doesn't know the alphabet, knows all about celebrities but doesn't know anything about his numbers SOMETHING IS WRONG...WAKE UP AND START BEING A PARENT before it's too late and somebody is reading their obituary, chiseling letters on their tombstone, or your trying to figure out how to pay for the mortgage and bail.

You're a Christian?

You can brush off someone doubting your age, your weight, or even your height. Those are things that can easily be proven but one thing you never want to hear someone doubt is your faith. Yet I meet so many people that lay claim to one religion or the other and I just can't seem to believe them. It is not something that can be easily proven but at the same time it shouldn't be something that people should have to ask you to prove. You choose your religion based on what YOU believe..or at least you should anyway, If you say you are a follower of a certain religion then the basic foundational information of that particular religion should be something you don't dispute. You can seek to get greater understanding by studying but if you are looking to prove anything about your faith you are not going to get very far. The very reason it is called faith is because it is something you just have to believe and choose to stand by despite the lack of proof. You can not pick and choose what you want to believe, you should not add or subtract from the basic principles within the scriptual text your faith ascribes to. If you find yourself doing something wrong it is right to ask for forgiveness, but it is ridiculous to do wrong on purpose and then ask for forgiveness because you think God owes you something. There is nothing that God owes you, so you should seek to live appropriately...so you want to sleep with everyone before you're too old, you want to try every type of drug and drink combo to see how your body holds up, you want to steal, lie, cheat, be mischievious and jealous? If you choose to live your life without thinking of the consequences those things add up, if your half hearted sorry isn't good enough for your ex girlfriend then why should it be good enough for God. Live with purpose and live all the way right or all the way wrong don't be an inbetweener. If you say you are a Christian, don't just be a Christian on Sunday, if you're a muslim or a jew don't just follow the rules on friday you have to be all the way invested in your faith because if it isn't worth following to you then honestly you should say that you are a follower of that religion because you make the rest of the people who really mean it look bad.

People Pleaser...

It is much harder to be unique than it is to follow the crowd. My generation (90's on up) seems to think that is important to have everybody like them and to have a lot of "friends". In order to achieve these grand feats they tend to dress alike, talk alike, listen to the same music, and never think outside of the box. For years I've heard and seen people being oucast because they don't fit a mold, can't be categorized, or have what seem to be eccentric tastes. It's a shame that so many people never even try to go against the grain, but instead choose to hide their passions and talents. Some people will never learn that being a people pleaser is the cause of their issues. The more you try to please people the more they change what they want from you....you can never please everyone. It makes no sense to even attempt to please everyone or have everyone be your friend because it never ends well. you don't want to find yourself saying "Et tu Brute?!" but it's up to you....so choose your actions wisely.

Wintertime? Pt. II....Cuffing Season

Maybe I just don't agree with the choice of words, I'm not really an avid user of slang terms to any extent and I just found out last month what this term really means (I had an idea but I never like to jump to conclusions). I just can't get with calling winter cuffing season. Sure the sentiment is nice and all it's cold so you need a warm somebody to be with but honestly do you want your relationships to be relegated to something cops do to criminals or desperate prostitutes do to their unsuspecting prey? I LOVE love...It is indeed a beautiful thing but I just can't believe that people actually like or even think about the terms they use to describe things especially somthing so sacred as a love connection. When given the image of hand cuffs one usually pictures a man or woman being held AGAINST their will by another...sure maybe love "arrested you" but to say cuffing SEASON implies that not only is this not a relationship to take all the way to the bank...it may not even be one you want to take outside of closed doors. Maybe I read too into things and I have indeed been told this on several occasions but it would be awesome if for once we all stopped using terms because they sounded cute or they were popular and actually started thinking about what we were saying. Do you wanna be cuffed in the winter then dropped when it starts to get warmer for the next thing walking? probably not so SOMEBODY....ANYBODY...PICK ANOTHER TERM TO USE! Thanx :) 

Wintertime?

So I'm from Baltimore and being in the Mid-Atlantic part of the east coast of the U.S. I can truly say we encounter all four seasons in all their glory. We have rainy springs, sweltering summers, cool crisp autumns and COLD winters....

That being said Maryland generally has lots of seasonally challenged folk lurking about and unfortunately not all of them are visitors...PEOPLE WHO HAVE LIVED HERE THEIR ENTIRE LIVES WEAR THINGS LIKE:
1. Sweatshirts with short shorts (your legs are warm and your arms are cold?)
2. Flip Flops in the snow.....really I don't think that ridiculousness needs explaining
3. Leggings (as pants)-it's 20 degrees outside right now and a girl just walked by me in leggings with holes cut into them and a tiny jacket

It makes no sense for people to come out of their homes looking confused but this is in fact a free country (to some extent but that's a different topic), so go ahead and wear what you want to wear in the winter but don't complain about being cold! Here's some advice: IF YOU ARE COLD PUT SOME CLOTHES ON IT IS NO LONGER SUMMER!!! Let's leave being ridiculous to commercial advertisements and stay away from disrupting the balance of nature with our dislike for normalcy... Enjoy the clip and HAPPY HOLIDAYS! 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M72zlyfUoeE&feature=related

A Lesson Before Dying

I am constantly trying to evolve and become a better person and I really try not to judge people BUT.....sometimes I find myself trying to understand why people are so crazy. This Blog has been created in an effort to share my thoughts and hear what others have to say about the topics that have me going crazy. I always try to provoke good conversation and be meaningful in what I say hopefully you'll understand. 

I'll leave you with a poem I wrote a couple years ago...Hope you enjoy the journey you'll take if you stick with me as I try to get us to RETURN TO CIVILIZATION :)

                                                            LIVE!

On this road called life we meet our worst enemies who often times become our best friends.
We meet our best friends who often become our worst enemies, and as we examine our judgments we feel a small pain in our sides.
Though we ignore what we think is unimportant we grow still more and more weary trying to figure out if the path we took was the right one. We never know.
We walk hand in hand with the person of our dreams until we experience our worst nightmares illuminating from the bodies of that very person...
Fear?
Is not something we acknowledge always strong and always ready to receive a new day as if nothing happened the day prior, and yet still our pains grow deeper.
without this pain we can what.... rule the earth? become a little more wealthy? become more powerful?
But what will we do with that strength? Ho will we compare to those who have made the same journey with less pain... we never know.
We call ourselves the strong ones but we never show our feelings...we will never be strong until we face our issues head on....but how can one know.....we never know
we never know when an accident will happen, when we will lose our loved ones, when our money will escape us, when our hearts will be broken, when our friends will desert us, or when we we will simply feel pain
why is it that we never know?
because all the while we are looking for a way to get rid of our pain instead of embracing it and using it to move forward.
As the future holds what we want, what we need, and what we can only imagine...
so does the present.
We need to stand back, reevaluate ourselves and our priorities.
So we will no longer just have a life
but we will truly
LIVE!